…I wonder why I even bother. I have come to realize I know exactly why I don’t blog as much anymore. I try my best to ignore these sorts of things, but it’s sometimes hard. I get the occasional email criticizing the way I write – things don’t flow as the reader thinks they should, or I have a misspelled word (I accidentally choose defiantly for definitely from spell check ALL the time), and the list goes on. Sometimes it’s well meaning, sometimes not. Even my own grandmother (a retired teacher) would email and point out when I used the wrong form of a word. I also get accused of taking others ideas, when in fact my post will be months, if not years, before the other bloggers post. More than likely they were inspired by my piece, or perhaps they didn’t see it at all. I choose to see the best in people. With the advent of Pinterest, the sharing of wonderful items has grown tenfold, and we are all bound to be inspired by what we see, consciously or not. I have seen many variations (and exact copies) of Retro Flowers popping up in books and other periodicals recently. I’m so glad that it is such a liked pattern idea. I choose to remember:
Imitation is the best form of flattery.
I had a comment today on a post, basically accusing me of taking an idea from another popular blogger. So I skipped on over to that blog, did a little search, found the item and saw it was similar. Different, but alike in many ways. It was posted two years after my post. So without a doubt, I did not “steal” their idea. Still, it’s very upsetting to be accused of taking someone elses idea. It makes me sick to think that someone would accuse me of such a thing. I try to be like a duck, and let it roll off my back, but these sorts of things stick with me and have me avoiding anything to do with the blog and sharing. If you are torn down for what you do, do you really want to continue to do it?
That’s not everyone, for sure, but I always think it’s good to have a reminder that there is a real person behind the writing, and that I don’t blog for monetary gain (no ads in the sidebar, only my book has an affiliate link, any other links not my own are just because I love the site). I buy almost every single piece of fabric/craft item I create with, only rarely (very, very rarely) accepting fabric or other items from companies, and even then only because I believe in the product and would purchase it myself. I share out of my love to teach and inspire, and hope to always have original content (as original as possible). I don’t want to repeat something that has been done wonderfully in another place, but I do like to share if I have a new spin on an old trick. If you don’t like how I write, or find too many errors for your taste, there is a little ‘x’ on the top of your browser or tab, that you can easily click so the offensive content doesn’t bother you anymore. If you’re going to accuse me of taking someone elses idea, at least check the posting dates before doing so. While you may think your words are well meaning, they are really just a passive aggressive dig. I’ll leave you with another gem I live by:
If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.
Thanks for letting me vent. I usually keep it in, and sometimes it feels good to get it out. The fabric box above was made with my free Fabric Scrap Basket tutorial. I’m in the process of updating my old ones with new fabrics and want to share a fresh new tutorial to clear up a few questions i’ve had over the years. I have a companion pattern to this tutorial, to help you to make fabric boxes to the size you need, and i’m currently in the process of updating it. A customer just pointed out that there were some spelling errors, which I don’t doubt. I originally wrote the pattern in 2009 with Photoshop (i.e. no spellcheck) and i’ve always been a rotten speller. (Although, homeschooling and teaching my son spelling has taught me some new rules I was never aware of! Proving once again, you’re never too old to learn.) The pattern currently doesn’t include the instructions for assembly, because no matter the size it’s all the same and there is a free tutorial for that, but i’m going to include the instructions so it will all be in one (printable) place for the maker. I will make an announcement here and through my newsletter (sign-up in the sidebar) when it’s ready. I will also renew any prior purchases so you can download a fresh copy when it’s time.